Arguments/Fights 80 replies, 40931 views

tofu
2/3/2011 6:40:00 PM
During a group meeting, a girl in the group was talking about how she and her boyfriend got into an argument, and she shouted "fuck you" and broke some of his things. Perplexed, I asked, "You said "fuck you" to your boyfriend?". Her response to me was a withering look and this: "well Lynne...when couples ACTUALLY fight, they say things like this to each other."

Of course this was referring to how I resolve issues with my boyfriend, which is just sitting down and figuring out what the problem is. The thing is, once we do that, the issue is squashed. I have never shouted at a boyfriend ever, and i'm not sure if it's the right way to go about doing things. Of course I have felt rage towards my boyfriend before, but i've never felt the urge to yell at him or throw his things around. Does it mean my relationships are not as passionate as other's? Are open displays of rage healthy in relationships?
Dan.
2/3/2011 6:42:00 PM
I've never raised my voice or insulted a girlfriend before. I know people do but that's just not how I react and I honestly don't think it's healthy if it's a common occurrence.
Davey.
2/3/2011 6:44:00 PM
I don't shout or swear at broads either.
Matt green thinks if you don't scream and almost punch your S/0 that you're not in love.
TOOTHPAC SHAKUR
2/3/2011 6:45:00 PM
Matt green beats his wife
Crack Pie
2/3/2011 6:48:00 PM
both are fine....people deal with shit differently....just because you dont yeall and they do says absolutely nothing when comparing relationships
Pollcat
2/3/2011 6:49:00 PM
Lauren and I have gotten into some heated arguments that have involved yelling and things of the such. These are very rare. We are going 8 years strong so who can really say what is wrong and what is right.
sherman
2/3/2011 6:52:00 PM
If you're going to scream and yell at each other, do it in the privacy of your own home. Doing this in a public place is extremely white trash.
Sandy Dickhands
2/3/2011 6:53:00 PM
i think what's most important is to know those things that you can say or do that will absolutely cut your s/o off at the knees and to never ever do or say those things
Brett Weir
2/3/2011 6:53:00 PM
I only administer stone cold stunners when I argue with a significant other.
tom.
2/3/2011 6:54:00 PM
love is always civil. people aren't always civil.
people don't completely understand love or the importance of it. i suppose some grasp it better than others.
WREN
2/3/2011 6:54:00 PM
Voices will get raised but there is no reason to dish out insults and throw shit. Normally we get our frustrations out and the situation is dead in 5 minutes. Then we're apologizing for acting like assholes.

If you have to resort to insulting your significant other, I think you need to question yourself or your relationship. I remember hearing a girl talk about how her boyfriend (now husband) would call her fat and what not just to win an argument. It wouldn't have anything to do with the topic but it was that type of shit that was thrown out just to win.
Pollcat
2/3/2011 6:56:00 PM
When I got a DUI lauren threw a vase at my head. I ducked. I deserved to be hit with it.
WREN
2/3/2011 6:57:00 PM
Originally posted by: Pollcat

When I got a DUI lauren threw a vase at my head. I ducked. I deserved to be hit with it.


I'd like to see her get a second try. Mostly for my own amusement.
sidney
2/3/2011 6:58:00 PM
i have said fuck you to my wife plenty of time during a fight and her to i....never whore or cunt.

she also punched my in the face once.....but 11 years and still going.....shit happens.

also make up sex
TomTruth410
2/3/2011 7:00:00 PM
My ex wife was abusive. The day I knew I hated her I honestly talked myself out of pushing her off my balcony. then she hit me with a plate of hot ass chinese food.
tony plush
2/3/2011 7:01:00 PM
ive gotten into plenty of arguments with girlfriends, but ive never yelled or cursed at them. i try to date girls who dont like getting into yelling matches. it seems like some couples thrive off of fighting.
also, like strickland said, its important not to bring up old painful issues. a girl (or guy) who does this obviously has much deeper seated anger from something and should be avoided at all costs.
tony plush
2/3/2011 7:02:00 PM
Originally posted by: tom.

love is always civil. people aren't always civil.
people don't completely understand love or the importance of it. i suppose some grasp it better than others.

tom. is like fucking buddha
WREN
2/3/2011 7:08:00 PM
Originally posted by: TomTruth410

My ex wife was abusive. The day I knew I hated her I honestly talked myself out of pushing her off my balcony. then she hit me with a plate of hot ass chinese food.


what a waste of good food.
Steve
2/3/2011 7:09:00 PM
Originally posted by: Kermit Butts

I only administer stone cold stunners when I argue with a significant other.

Davey.
2/3/2011 7:10:00 PM
Half an hour later he was hungry for another argument.
AtWarWithAmeliaLOL
2/3/2011 7:10:00 PM
My ex and I used to have epic yelling matches that would end in explosive make up sex.
My new guy backs down too easily for that to eventuate.
Steve
2/3/2011 7:10:00 PM
Brett Weir
2/3/2011 7:15:00 PM
Stone Cold Steve Austin appreciation thread.
Gatsby
2/3/2011 7:25:00 PM
my husband and I hardly EVER fight. and when we do, it's more like a bickering than anything.

Case in point:

The last time we bickered with each other we were talking about what kind of snack we wanted to have. We both agreed to have popcorn, but neither got up to make it. About 15 minutes later he got up to go to the bathroom. I got up to make popcorn and remembered that we had buffalo chicken dip in the fridge. I grabbed that instead and was about to eat it when he walked in and said that he was planning on taking that for lunch and that he thought we were making popcorn. I snapped back that I wanted this instead and that he was greedy for wanting the whole thing to himself when all I wanted was a little. He huffed "fine" and stormed off and I threw it back in the fridge and slammed the door shut. We both ended up on the couch at the same time empty handed, so I went back out to the kitchen, made popcorn came back in and continued on with our night like it never happened.
Gatsby
2/3/2011 7:27:00 PM
Originally posted by: Pollcat

When I got a DUI lauren threw a vase at my head. I ducked. I deserved to be hit with it.

I punched my husband in the face when he came home piss drunk 4 hours after he was supposed to when I couldn't get a hold of him all night. He deserved it and he admits it.
Bonsai
2/3/2011 7:43:00 PM
I've never hit anyone or thrown anything, and I don't recall ever having screamed or cursed at a guy. I've had little arguments and disagreements with dudes, but not anything I'd consider a major fight. Most stuff isn't worth fighting about, and I don't deal well with yelling so if anyone starts that shit with me, I tell them to take it down a few notches. If they don't, I walk away.

Dude I dated when I was a lot younger was an ass and tried to pick fights constantly. He'd yell, curse, insult me, throw shit in my face that I'd told him in confidence, and made threats on a regular basis. Fuuuu. That's not love. If you intentionally hurt the people you care about, there is something wrong with you.