physical and emotional cheating...and if emotional cheating counts/if its a "real thing"?

also which one is worse?

they both suck but honestly i'd have to say that physical cheating is worse. I wouldn't really want Dianna to do either but i think i could handle it better if never got as far as physical.

i've heard women say before after theyve found out their partner has been cheating "thinking about him having sex with another woman doesn't bother me nearly as much as the thought of him laughing and having a good time with her."

they're both fucking horrible, but i'd have to say it would be knowing a girlfriend was having sex with someone else that would make me feel sick and upset more.

also, what counts as emotional cheating...like what goes beyond the line of friends. what things would you think are red flags.

because i was saying to her its hard to tell. there's really such a thin line.

Oh man, this is a tough one for me. I think emotional cheating is farrrr worse. Most guys I know have the ability to completely cut their emotions out of a physical experience. But emotional cheating takes time and work.

Originally posted by:aim

both count and hurt equally as much.


especially when the person who is supposed to be finding emotional comfort in you is finding it in someone else, whether its physical or not.

this is how i feel....also i told her emotional connection is what starts things...and then before you know it the door to cheat physically is WIDE open.

personally if my sig. other can't come to me w whats going on in his life or how hes feeling..even simple things like what went on at work or where he went when he was out w the guys, shit like that...then i'd be worried if he was confiding in someone else.

cheat and get beat

cheating of any kind should be punishable by firing squad

cheat or GTFO.

oh christ, you're a bunch of whiney assholes. so a s/o can't have close friends? what about friends they've known longer than you? if you're so self absorbed and stupid that you can't handle them having close friendships with other people, that's your problem, not theirs. there is no such thing as "emotional cheating". that's a term some female pop psychologist probably made up to justify her own unevolved, self absorbed, whiney book. what a bunch of fucking malarky. lo fucking l.

Im a little torn on this, in one sense I kind of agree with obese bellydancer but then can see how someone can get a bit infatuated with someone of the opposite sex and then things escalate from there. Its really hard to define what exactly emotional cheating means and how to tell the difference between that and a close friendship.

Originally posted by:Obese Bellydancer

oh christ, you're a bunch of whiney assholes. so a s/o can't have close friends? what about friends they've known longer than you? if you're so self absorbed and stupid that you can't handle them having close friendships with other people, that's your problem, not theirs. there is no such thing as "emotional cheating". that's a term some female pop psychologist probably made up to justify her own unevolved, self absorbed, whiney book. what a bunch of fucking malarky. lo fucking l.

I think what you're saying is a crock of shit. Of course your SO can have close friends but when they cross the line into having intimate conversations it's really not just a friendship anymore.

i don't think emotional cheating is referring to close friends. I have plenty of female friends and dianna is completely aware of them. I don't go to them and talk romantically with or even playfully flirt with them. If you took 3 seconds to think about it you might have been able to easily see the difference between being friends or cheating emotionally.

there where 2 things that my friend is concerned about:

1) a girl who is married and has a baby who she feels her s/o confides in, has more to talk about, things he makes a big deal not telling her about he will discuss in front of her with this girl....also, they are new friends he's been dating my friend a few months longer

2) 2 messages in said internet that where to random strangers being slightly overly friendly

i said it sounds like hes in need of some girl to fill his emotional needs then. if hes looking to chatting w random girls and someone who i would consider "safe"

agreed? or no? you think she's just being jealous?

so then, if you suspect your SO of emotionally cheating how do you confront it? How can you tell that they are having inappropriate conversations. etc? What would you think/say if they said they were just good friends?

Both pyshical an emotional intimacy are things that should be fullfilled in a relationsship. If one of the partners is getting it from someone else and hiding it, it is obviously wrong.


The best solution, stop giving a fuck about your partner.

I don't think she's just jealous. I have been in her situation and have had many girlfriends who have gone through it. If her guy is leaning on another girl for emotional support that means he's more comfortable with her and has more willingness to do and say things that he wouldn't normally do. That is not a good mix and may lead to a physical relationship.