I won't be doing this anytime soon.

I'm curious how soon into a relationship you wait until you move in with each other. I ask because I see people moving in with each other so soon into relationships and then getting pissed when it doesn't work out as planned. What did you expect after being together for only a month or two?

Originally posted by: life/deathnopoint

I won't be doing this anytime soon.

I'm curious how soon into a relationship you wait until you move in with each other. I ask because I see people moving in with each other so soon into relationships and then getting pissed when it doesn't work out as planned. What did you expect after being together for only a month or two?

Yeah i've made the mistake of moving in to soon. Definitly wait as long as you can

waited a lil over a year and i regret it almost everyday.. it has some ups don't get me wrong but i like my space..

I can figure out pretty early whether I would be able to stick with someone long term or not. Whether the reverse is true and they'd get sick of me is up in the air. But if I'm relatively certain that I'm not going to change my opinion of the guy at any point in the foreseeable future, I'm game.

That is, however, taking into account that I own my house and have a spare room that he could use if he wanted a break or things were to go sour and he needed to stay until he could figure out an escape route. My house is big enough that we could easily live together and not really even need to see each other on a daily basis.

Pre-homeownership was another story. Would not have even considered getting a place together or shacking up with a guy unless marriage was already in the works. Too many what ifs, and too big a headache if it didn't work out.

It has its ups and downs like anything else and I think the amount of time thats appropriate varies a bit and depends on the people. I personally waited a little over a year and now i'm at almost 5 with my current girlfriend and we just bought a place. I think to a lot of people it makes sense on a financial level and they don't think much past that but given the current economic state if you don't have friends to live with and you don't want to live with your parents it makes it a little easier. Figure around here a one bedroom apartment probably goes for minimum $700.00 a month plus utilities and whatever other bills people have, thats a lot to take on as an individual, even with a decent job.

If I care enough for the person I have no hesitations (regardless of length of dating time) in moving in with someone.
If it feels like the right thing to do, do it.

Originally posted by: -T

If I care enough for the person I have no hesitations (regardless of length of dating time) in moving in with someone.
If it feels like the right thing to do, do it.

I feel exactly the same.
In a way its also about how good you two get along. If you argue alot living apart, probably not the best idea.

We waited awhile only because of shit that was going on in our personal lives at the time. But at the same time it probably would have been alot better to have done it way sooner because the travel was a bitch and I can't imagine how much money we spent in gas and tolls to see eachother. We're married now so I guess it didn't break us.

terrible idea

another one of these

waited about 3 months...if that

Originally posted by: WREN

We waited awhile only because of shit that was going on in our personal lives at the time. But at the same time it probably would have been alot better to have done it way sooner because the travel was a bitch and I can't imagine how much money we spent in gas and tolls to see eachother. We're married now so I guess it didn't break us.

I was in school full time and therefore could only work part time, it wasn't feasible before I graduated.

Either way, the transition of living in separate houses to getting out own place wasn't a big deal. We didn't learn anything new about one another and nothing changed except that it's much more awesome and we had to get a bigger bed.

We were together for 10 months when we started living together.

The first time my wife and I lived together was the day after we got married. Everyone said it was going to be difficult to adjust to living with someone. I see no difference.

Originally posted by: Lauren570

We were together for 10 months when we started living together.

We technically did as well, however he was living with me at my mom's for a month before we moved into our house, so I suppose it was more like 9.

I think at this stage in our lives, every realtionship we are in is a "serious" one, so why wait a few years just to find out that we can't live together?

Originally posted by: Jess.


I think at this stage in our lives, every realtionship we are in is a "serious" one, so why wait a few years just to find out that we can't live together?

That's a good point.

fuck a bitch. I had to kick my ex out a few months ago.. one of the lowest points iv had in my life. her living with me ruined everything. i cant even be her freind now. thank god there are a million fish in the sea. dont move in together unless your married or deeply in love, and actualy understand love.