If they cant share a secert then dont tell them any.

i'm a married friend to 90% of my friends... I usually forget whatever the secret was because I've got tons of other shit running through my mind.. So, I think of myself as a good secret keeper..

I don't talk to my husband really... he's just there and all he does is watch tv, play video games and smoke pot with his buddies... I wish I had NEVER got married

Originally posted by:the norseman

lol @ comparing someone hearing about some stupid little secret to basic human rights.

lol@ you thinking that the right to privacy exists only on paper, and not in everyday life. good luck with that.

Originally posted by:the norseman
i'm also interested to hear what you all consider a secret. do you honestly have friends that often come to you with some earth-shattering revelation they want you and only you to hear? maybe my friends just have stable lives, maybe they're boring, but i don't get this in the first place.

maybe they just don't trust you. given everything you've said here, i sure as hell wouldn't trust you.

Originally posted by:the norseman

do you honestly have friends that often come to you with some earth-shattering revelation they want you and only you to hear? maybe my friends just have stable lives, maybe they're boring, but i don't get this in the first place.

but you're still a child. give it a few more decades when you're out of your twenty-tween years. just like getting an abortion can be earth shattering for the person getting it, so can getting cancer, contracting AIDS, or your parents getting alzheimer's - all of which i've heard about second hand from people that were supposed to be keeping it secret, and i would never trust any of them with my own personal information afterwards. any "stupid little secret" can be "earth shattering" if it's in your life, even if it doesn't seem so in someone else's, hence the reason for the basic idea behind 'confiding' in someone.
what a stupid, infantile, self-involved attitude to think it isn't important whether you betray it or not, just because you say so, even if the other person thought it was important enough to ask you not to tell anyone. nice.

Originally posted by:dianna

Originally posted by: InTheButtLikeWhat

if a friend told me about an abortion or some terrible childhood sexual abuse or anything else that could be considered especially painful, traumatic, humiliating, shameful, to them i would respect them enough to not ever mention it to anyone. husband, boyfriend, or otherwise. that's what i consider a secret.

obviously.

not so obviously from what i've seen people talk about behind other people's backs. i know a lot more detail in this vein of the traumatic, humiliating and unspeakable, about a lot more people than i should, and i don't think i'm the only person like that.

not surprising that the people that obviously can't be trusted are the ones trying to justify betrayal, while the people that have been burnt are the only ones that know what this is about.

Originally posted by:littlemiss_scrubtech

i'm a married friend to 90% of my friends... I usually forget whatever the secret was because I've got tons of other shit running through my mind.. So, I think of myself as a good secret keeper..

I don't talk to my husband really... he's just there and all he does is watch tv, play video games and smoke pot with his buddies... I wish I had NEVER got married

well that's just .... sad.

Originally posted by:you big meanie

Originally posted by:littlemiss_scrubtech

i'm a married friend to 90% of my friends... I usually forget whatever the secret was because I've got tons of other shit running through my mind.. So, I think of myself as a good secret keeper..

I don't talk to my husband really... he's just there and all he does is watch tv, play video games and smoke pot with his buddies... I wish I had NEVER got married

well that's just .... sad.

yeah.. I know.. it is..

Originally posted by: you big meanie

Originally posted by:dianna

Originally posted by: InTheButtLikeWhat

if a friend told me about an abortion or some terrible childhood sexual abuse or anything else that could be considered especially painful, traumatic, humiliating, shameful, to them i would respect them enough to not ever mention it to anyone. husband, boyfriend, or otherwise. that's what i consider a secret.

obviously.

not so obviously from what i've seen people talk about behind other people's backs. i know a lot more detail in this vein of the traumatic, humiliating and unspeakable, about a lot more people than i should, and i don't think i'm the only person like that.

well fuck those people.
i just think stupid shit isn't a big deal, i wasn't even thinking about secrets like this. i had a friend tell me about her abortion and it didn't even occur to me to tell wren. it wasn't for me to say, in fact i even think i forgot about it. i believe she eventually told him herself (because we're all friends with the same people) but he heard it from her first.

all in all, wren and i have more important things to do and talk about than our friends.


also, i know what it's like to have a secret be told to a significant other. it has nothing to do with being married. all my friends in high school had big fucking mouths and told their shitty, one year relationship boyfriends my business.

some of you may be taking this thread more seriously than the seriousness it deserves

Originally posted by: littlemiss_scrubtech

I don't talk to my husband really... he's just there and all he does is watch tv, play video games and smoke pot with his buddies... I wish I had NEVER got married

also, HUGE lol at this

glad I could make you laugh cbrickhouse....

you put it out there, i laugh.

Originally posted by:cbrickhouse

some of you may be taking this thread more seriously than the seriousness it deserves

seriously

Originally posted by:wholesaletrash

Originally posted by:cbrickhouse

some of you may be taking this thread more seriously than the seriousness it deserves

seriously

and it doesn't even matter as long as it's someone else's life anyways. as long as it isn't you secret, why take it so seriously? people get way too uptight about this. people hide too many things anyways. besides, they usually never even find out that you've told other people about their business anyways so it's all good. no worries.

I didn't mean to sound as though I was offended. I seriously am glad I made ya laugh..